There's just such good dialogue in When Harry Met Sally. Sure, it's an old movie and maybe quite a few of you youngins haven't seen it. If that's true, good ahead and stream it on Ne.tflix. A sample:
Sally - The biological clock doesn't start ticking until 36.
Sally - ...And I'm gonna be 40!
Harry - When?
Sally - Someday...
Harry - In 8 years.
Oh, how I wish it was eight years away for me. I turn thirty-four in several months which puts me squarely in the mid-thirties range. I'm not saying anyone who can't get pregnant after trying several months shouldn't be concerned, they should be, but I think being infertile at 34 trumps 24.
This is a completely anecdotal observation but most women heading towards IVF or try it sooner, are over 35. Maybe they got married "late" or just decided to wait to start a family. But I can understand the time pressure you feel you're under at this age. Women under 30 probably feel they've got some time to let things work themselves out. Older women don't feel they have that luxury.
I think the Church should give a little attention or show some empathy towards women who feel the pressure to go down the ART road. Is it just me, or does the Church spend more time giving declaratives rather than exploring the complexity of human emotions? I know why "feel good" churches are popular these days because people feel they are getting attention on the issues that affect them the most. Can we come to a happy medium in the Catholic Church? Declaratives are good for small children, not adults.