I witnessed something this weekend that I've only seen on TV or in the movies. My FIL verbally attacked my husband. He told his son all kinds of terrible things over lunch with me and my MIL present. I've started to notice after knowing them for five years that my MIL nervously giggles when her husband is being a complete jerk. But I'd never quite seen him being a complete d*ck as he was yesterday.
The abuse I think followed the usual pattern. "You're a screw up, I told my friends what [I think] you did, your brother always does the right thing, I would never have done what you did." My husband sat there gently defending himself but he was starting to really sweat and my MIL did not intervene. I couldn't take the crap when my FIL got to the part where he sold my husband out to his friends.
I placed my hand on my FIL's forearm and said something to the effect of, "What you're doing is wrong. You're judging a situation you know nothing about. And you should not talk to your son that way." He replied, "I can say anything I want to my son, Mrs.!" He barked the "Mrs." part. I think he meant to insult my position as just a wife, but I have full confidence in myself so it didn't bother me if he was trying to cause hurt.
When the attack was winding down, I called him an egomaniac because I couldn't think of megalomaniac which was probably more descriptive of the man. So, I was pissed but we rather quickly left their house and I hugged my FIL because I love Jesus that much and told him I'd pray for him. His response was "you're praying for me? Pray for your husband." I ignored that.
Not coming from that kind of family, I was very surprised by my husband's reaction which was, "why get upset and give him the satisfaction?" That made sense to my head but my heart was just breaking for my husband. He said that's the way his father has always been, that's he's never been supportive. Praise be to God that my husband has been able to overcome that. He's not perfect, but he's a good man and I am very proud to be his wife. Yesterday's rant taught me a lot about my in-laws and that's only a good thing.