Saturday, August 11, 2012

"Now you're ready for IVF?"

I'm sorry I haven't been updating my weight loss saga as closely as I could have.  I didn't weight myself this morning because it didn't look good; what the numbers might be, that is.  Two days ago I was at 123.4.  Just four more pounds to go.  This should be the hard part.  The first four was water weight.  The last four is fat and maybe a bit of muscle, I just don't know without one of the floating fat percentage test.  I'm kind of taking this weekend as a fun one.  My husband came back home a day early which I'm very happy about. :) We just came back from a car museum trip with our great friends which I can't name by their fake names because I can't now remember what I called them.

Last Tuesday, on the phone my husband said, "The new company insurance cover $15K of... I can't remember what it's called right now... what's it called?"

[Me] Infertility treatment.
[Him] Right, infertility treatment.
[Me] And how do you know this just two days into your job?
[Him] My boss told me.
[Me] You've already told them we're infertile????
[Him] Well, he and his wife have the same problem but she's a little older. Like 39 or 40.  (This is supposed to make me feel good?)
[Me] I guess you guys are cutting to the chase.  Back to the topic at hand.  We could afford to do IVF before, it wasn't a question of money.
[Him] Well it sort of was.  If you want to do that, I'd be OK with it.
[Me] But I don't want to do IVF.  Having insurance that covers it makes no difference to me.

Fast forward to this morning....
[Me] So, after all these years of telling me you don't want kids, now you want them?  Why?
[Him] Well, it would be nice to carry on the name.  Not like we'd be assured a boy, but...
[Me, heading to the master bathroom] Exactly, and this is my policy.  I am open to children as long as I can conceive them the same way 90% of the population does, FOR FREE, IN THE PRIVACY OF MY OWN HOME, AND ON NO DRUGS.  Only that way am I open to having kids.  Why should I pay thousands of dollars for something that most people get for free?
[Him] OK, honey.

And that's where we left it.

The aforementioned friends were the only ones so far that actually asked us how my husband and I would handle being apart for a few days at a time.  They passed no initial judgement like every other person so far has.  I said I was excited.  I'm happy my husband is working at a great job.  The last year was hell and it didn't help having him home every day.  That was not a good compromise.  I'm excited to travel to a new place a couple times a month.  This is an adventure.  It's not a bad thing and people can keep their bad attitudes to themselves.  This is going to be fun!


  1. I love your optimisim about your dh's new job! Being positive about the situation is going to make it work.

    Interesting that your dh was talking about I.vF. Doesn't he know your stance? Besides being expensive and did you know now there's research out there stating women who have done I.VF are now at a higher risk for cancer? No kidding. All that hyperstimulating to get eggs is causing future havac on those women's bodies. And most's against the Catholic Faith...God has a bigger plan out there for may include children..I don't know. But as you seem to know...He has a greater plan...and you just have to be open to it. I could go on and on....Sounds like you are the one with the strong stance against IVF. God bless you.

    One thing I am loving about Dr.S. my napro dr who is doing my surgery soon is that she won't ask me if I'm doing IUI"s or IVF"s. Thank you Lord!

  2. when my husband got the mexico offer i was so excited but worried about the time apart. it was hard, of course, it wouldn't be 'easy' to balance the schedules, but i know how much he wanted to go, how good it was for his career, and how much fun it would be to visit a new place! Plus it did help to not focus on fertility stuff. glad you're optimistic, change is good and refreshing and it does sound fun!