Right after writing my post last night, I went over to Joy Beyond the Cross and read her horrible news. I couldn't sleep last night because of it. I woke up my husband to tell him. He said, "God, that's terrible." All this debate on my blog felt so gratuitous.
I see two camps forming. The first doesn't think it's OK to question Church leaders or contact them to do so. They also like to attribute infertility and some other bad stuff to the Fall. In addition, they are on board with the procreation aspect being the central tenet of the anti gay marriage argument.
The second camp (the infertiles/the childless and cancer sufferers) aren't taking a lot of comfort in the Fall argument. They also see value in the other salient aspects of the anti gay marriage argument not related to procreation 'cause hey, we're married and we don't procreate.
Joanna, it's not that I don't recognize that our infertility is due to some defect. That's obviously true. It's just that I've never felt the mothers have been able to empathize with the infertiles and they don't even try. That's why I don't get why they comment on infertile blogs.
I'm here and I write to represent a persecuted minority. And advocate for us. To hear lawyers and archbishops casually throw around the word "infertility" like it meant nothing to some people was extremely hurtful.
There's a gulf I guess between these two camps. People that get pregnant like clockwork can't understand people like me who fail to conceive 32 months in a row. Nearly all the friends my age have children and I have to bend to their schedules. It's a life fertiles don't understand. That's all.