Saturday, January 26, 2013

Proserpina

Thank you so much for your prayers.  Things have calmed down a bit, I guess.  I shared my concerns about my mother with her doctor's office manager.  We talked on Thursday.  She said she'd talk to the dr. who I should probably name however I don't want a libel suit against me.  However, I didn't hear from the manager on Friday.  I'll try to reach her next week.

My father continues to insist this third party relationship was not physical.  I'm actually starting to believe him.  I think it was a close, albeit inappropriate friendship.  No one is to say what's unacceptable to any person/spouse.  But I think my father was driven to talk to someone sympathetic.  Either way, my parents are not good for one another right now.

I had lunch with my father yesterday.  He said he appreciated that I and one of my siblings had taken his side in this. :)  I said emphatically, we're not taking anybody's side (other than God's).  Everybody's a sinner and both he and my mother have made mistakes and created problems.  So, I told him not to take that attitude that he's in the right and she's in the wrong.

My dad's seeing a doctor on Monday to make an initial assessment of his cognitive abilities.  I guess I'm dismayed that my parents are having problems of this nature at a relatively young age.  Their parents were just have kinda similar problems between 10 and 5 years ago.  So, not hardly a generational gap.  I thought I'd have at least another 10-15 years before I had to deal with elder care issues.

I'm very impressed that my brothers and sisters have all taken significant action.  We all finally agree for the first time in our lives.  I'm happy about that.

My husband gave notice yesterday and will start his new job in two weeks.  He told his parents last night and they were concerned about the "stability" of this new job.  Heck, what's stable anyway these days?  We're meeting in the middle tomorrow for brunch and his brother is at the family home so right now, the four of them are cozy together.  I'll let them have their nuclear family this weekend.

My school is going OK.  Keeping up with everything alright so far.  I am thinking about contesting the writing exam requirement since I've already written eight papers and did the first two with a perfect score so why do I need to take a $35 test?  What a joke.

All in all I'm feeling pretty happy.  Just because things in life are bad on a relative basis, I think there's a lot you can be positive about.  So, I'm positive.  I'm grateful for the pain because so far, I and we have always emerged.  And God continues to bless me in incredible ways.  I'm thankful today.

7 comments:

  1. I am glad that your mom's Dr. may get involved to help her. It is so tough when our parents start needing us more as they get older. My DH's parents are in their early 70s and are starting to need our help more. We have only been married 5 years and like you I thought we wouldn't have to worry about this for at least another 15 yrs. Oh yeah, my DH is the more caring/responsible one out of the six of them. Continued prayers for your family!

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  2. That was definitely a step in the right direction getting your mom's dr involved. And yeah for dh coming back home!!! You are right...there is no such thing as job security anymore...or employee security for those who employ people...we definitely live in a transient society.

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  3. So glad that your DH is coming home!!!! I am glad to hear that you and your siblings are all in agreement, that can make things so much worse messier. I will continue to keep your family in my prayers.

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  4. Yeah, your DH is coming home!!!! Way to stick to your priorities in placing your marriage first and helping him to see the value in that as well. A great testimony to a strong relationship!

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  5. I wasn't implying that your DH didn't see the value in your marriage before, I just was trying to congratulate you on being willing to do whatever was necessary to keep your marriage on a firm foundation and I know you brought it to the Lord as well and he is blessing you guys with this new job. Okay, I will stop talking now... :)

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  6. So glad to hear you and your DH will be back to living in one household again soon! It's so frustrating that his parents seem to want him around more than they want him to have a healthy marriage and a good life. I'm sure they don't see it that way, but sometimes people have a hard time taking a step back and seeing where their selves and interests end and those of another begin.

    And I'm glad your family seems to be taking the necessary steps to get through these difficulties. I will be praying for you all.

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  7. Hope all is well- you are in my prayers!

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