Jeez, I'm not sure where I left off with my stories. Ok, it's coming to me.... I did write about calling Jack and letting him know how it felt to be abandoned by his friendship. He suggested getting together and that did happen last weekend.
My husband, bless his sweet heart, really enjoys Jack and says he's very interesting to talk to since he knows many things. I know this to be somewhat true but I know Jack to make statements that are clearly untrue just to argue the point and draw the other party into it. Case in point, he told me when we were dating that "70% of the po.r.n is consumed by women." This is such a crazy statement that even I couldn't believe it but it stands as a prime example of Jack's thinking.
They were late. Jill wasn't going to come since she has morning sickness but managed to make it. The conversation was pleasant enough. I refrained from calling them out on their chicken behavior. Hell, if you want to end it, be a man (or woman) and say it. Don't drop it. I did my duty as a former girlfriend and someone who's known Jack for sixteen years, not to let his wife know that I know him better than she does. She is stupid not to believe it but I didn't want to confirm anything. Almost everything experienceable that Jack talked about, I was actually there when it happened or knew about it within minutes of it happening.
The only thing Jack said that pissed me off was when he said African priests are hyper-conservative and hate gays. I reminded him that one of our priests is African and he f'ing officiated at our wedding that Jack and Jill attended. He's never talked about things he hates or even dislikes, other than sin and I wouldn't ever imagine him speaking against homosexuality even if he didn't like it. Despite coming from a strong Catholic family himself, Jack can't bring himself to be respectful.
Jill did say something that made me a bit concerned in that she's somewhat religious (heck, they kneeled at an altar at their wedding) but Jack's an atheist and Jill's worried this will cause some problems once the baby's born. I could see that coming a mile away. No one think differing religious views can hurt a couple until you introduce another human being into the situation that you have to raise.
I didn't want to sound like their mother but I do find it odd they felt it was a good time to have a baby when they both do freelance work and they haven't work since Christmas. They live in a very desirable beach community and they pay dearly for that, a tiny 700 sqft, one bedroom, one bathroom condo. I did ask how they were going to put a child in that place and Jack conceded that finding another place to live might be in their immediate future. Too bad the condo is worth $100K less that what he bought it for on 100% financing.
If it seems like I'm gloating, I feel justified about that to a certain extent. I mean, my husband and I own a big enough home for three kids, we make enough money to give our kids a nice lifestyle but ironically, we have no kids. We did rehearse before the brunch what we'd say if they asked us about pregnancy plans, but thankfully Jack and Jill didn't address it and I tried to ask no questions about her pregnancy. I really didn't want to break them out of their naive belief that pregnancy is a highly controllable state. Ignorance in their case, is bliss.
I'm not calling him anymore. While I could spend lots of time wishing he would be a better person and friend, the odds are stacked against that and I've got to move forward with more trustworthy folks. At least I got to drink a bloody mary.